Ok – Whoever took my sweet, loving little boy and left this teenage hormonal asshole behind – TAKE IT BACK!<\/p>\n
We have been at it since 8 freaking am this morning. Constant. With only a few breaks for breaths it seems. It’s the same old fight over and over again, and he’s been pushing and pushing and pushing to see what it would take for me to break.<\/p>\n
I broke. Not exactly how he expected me too, but break I did.<\/p>\n
Finally came to a head after he spent HOURS “cleaning” the kitchen and in effect managing to do precisely nothing. Now, I’m the worlds worst housekeeper, I know, and I tend to let them slide as well, and take most of the Asshole’s bullshit about it myself instead of letting it hit the kids shoulders. But today? I’ve had enough. I asked him to do one. simple. chore. And he just kept pushing and pushing. So instead of just yelling (though I certainly did yell when he’d pushed me far enough) I suddenly got really. fucking. calm, and kicked him out of the kitchen. I made dinner, loaded the dishwasher, cleaned plates and silverware for me and the pup. Told the other two dinner was on the stove, they could wash their own dish and get something to eat.<\/p>\n
Insert the beginning grumbles.
\nSquashed immediately. Then.<\/p>\n
“You want to do whatever you want to do. Fine. Go right ahead. Manspace is off limits for a week.”<\/p>\n
Oh. My. God. You would have thought I ripped the boy’s heart out and fed it to him. “but my show is on tonight!”<\/p>\n
So?<\/p>\n
“PLEASE?”<\/p>\n
no. you made a choice, do whatever you want. You wanted to do whatever you want – there ya go. It’s your choice. Manspace is offlimits.<\/p>\n
He actually spent 45 minutes on his knees, hands folded prayerfully, bawling his eyes out at my feet. I felt like a heel [as well as pretty annoyed at the dramatics. heh.]. I feel worse then he does, I’m sure, but I also know I can’t back down. This is the first of many battles I know, but damn I’m tired of them walking all over me the minute their father leaves. They don’t treat me like this when he’s here, but the minute he heads to work…. I’m just mom. Asshole tends to perpetuate that, as well, but dammit, I will<\/b> be respected if I have to take every little thing that means anything to them away. I’m the adult here.<\/p>\n
The adult that feels like shit, but dammit, I am mom. <\/p>\n
He’s in the kitchen cleaning. Heh. He did just come to me again, and ask if he could finish it tomorrow after his shopping trip with Gramma and Papa. I said sure, if that’s waht he wanted to do. He said cool and started out to the manspace. <\/p>\n
And got heartbroken again when I said no. What part of “offlimits for a week” did he not understand? How unclear was “Clean or don’t. Whatever. it’s your choice. You will do whatever you want, which is what you wanted me to allow. BUT. No manspace” when I said it over and over agian?!? GOOD GOD BOY I’M NOT A BLOODY SOFT HEARTED IDIOT.<\/p>\n
ok. so I am. *le sigh*<\/p>\n
But he’s still not going out to the manspace tonight [unless by some miracle the kitchen is SHININGLY CLEAN when he decides he’s done.]. He asked what he could do to earn it back – told he had his choices. He could do whatever he wanted about them. He might earn it sooner. He might earn it later. That is solely up to me and my judgement based on his actions.<\/p>\n
He’s crying again.<\/p>\n
*sigh* How long until he’s 18 again?!?!?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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