{"id":135,"date":"2005-01-07T15:42:44","date_gmt":"2005-01-08T00:42:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/gonfalon.org\/eclat\/2005\/01\/07\/dude-the-fuck\/"},"modified":"2005-01-07T15:42:44","modified_gmt":"2005-01-08T00:42:44","slug":"dude-the-fuck","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/gonfalon.org\/eclat\/2005\/01\/07\/dude-the-fuck\/","title":{"rendered":"Dude – the FUCK?!?"},"content":{"rendered":"

So – browsing various favorites and playing “follow the link” brought up a doosey today. Apparently, some fucknut legislaturive asshole by the name of Delegate John Cosgrove (R-78)<\/a> of the Commonwealth of Virgina has proposed and filed and sponsored a bill to update\/change\/make a law that included a fine if a woman sufferes an unattended miscarriage and does not report it WITHIN 12 HOURS to the local COPS<\/b>.
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\nYes. You read that correctly. HB1677<\/a> will make the failure to report a miscarriage at ANY gestational age within 12 hours<\/b> a misdemeaner, punishable by up to 1 year in jail and a fine of 2500 dollars. This puts it in leagute with the states laws on Statutory Rape, Stalking, Arson, and Bomb Threats made by a minor.<\/p>\n

Maura gives her explanation\/discection of the proposed here on the Democracy for Virginia page<\/a>. She breaks it down and slams the possibilities of this law home. Rather then repeat her well written findings, I’ll simply tell you a story.<\/p>\n

My story. Those of you who have hung out here for the past several years have heard\/know this story as I’ve told it before. I revisit it here to tell you that if this law were to come to be in Alaska, I would have spent jailtime\/been fined on top of losing my baby and almost dying. <\/p>\n

In October of 1997, we discovered we were pregnant again with our third child. Having no problems with the two previous pregnacies (now the deliveries were a different story. *L*) We told everyone and were extremely excited about bringing another baby into the world. I found out that I was pregnant at about 3.5 weeks along, and set up my first prenatal visit for shortly after I would be 6 weeks pregnant.<\/p>\n

On November 12th [it’s been several years now – this date is approximate.. I’m both happy and sad to report I don’t remember the exact dates anymore…], we were finally getting to see Charlie Daniels live in concert – the Asshole and I both were excited! [shut up. *L*] This was actually the first concert we would ever attend together, because we had such… different.. tastes in music at the time. However, what should have been a wonderful night was not so much, because I began to bleed that morning. I was just barely 4 weeks along. I hoped it was just spotting, as I had that with both my other two, but inside I knew something was wrong. The bleeding got heavier, and I was cramping lightly, so I called my doctor. She had me come in for a blood test, and I would have to return two days later for the confirmation blood test that would say for certain that I’d lost the baby. Attending that concert was the longest and hardest thing I did. I was in tears throughout. – and while seeing Charlie Daniels play fiddle like that in person was amazing, I couldn’t even begin to concentrate through the tears and the questions and the pain of suffering a miscarriage.<\/p>\n

The bleeding continued, and 2 days later I had the bloodtest that confirmed my HCG was not doubling, and thus the pregnacy was indeed terminated. I was crushed. I love my kids, I love being pregnant, and I’d lost so much weight and I was in the best shape I’d been in a long time – there was nothing that could have foretold that I would loose that baby.<\/p>\n

Please note that by the time of the concert, let alone the time my miscarriage was confirmed, I was already well over the 12 hours that Virginia may soon require for reporting this to the authorities.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

It didn’t end there. They told me to be on the lookout for the fetus, just so we wuold know it had been expelled, but since I was so newly pregnant it was likely it had already happened. That was not the case. A week later, on November 19 [again, approx..] I was to babysit for a friends kids while she went to work. I woke up that morning feeling very faint, very much… not ok. I got up and was dizzy and sick, so went to the bathroom to throw up. I got the boy off to school, and the girl in front of her cartoons, then had to be sick again. I woke up a while later on the floor in the bathroom – I had no idea how long I’d been out, when I’d passed out, or why. Mairi came in and paniced… I told her to go wake up daddy and tell him mommy was sick. She was only 3 at the time, but ran to do so. <\/p>\n

He thought she was just exagerating and wasn’t too happy about waking up or anything – until he saw me. I was white and weak and well – it wasn’t good. When the girl who I was babysitting for got there, she took Mairi with her, and Asshole took me to the ER. 4 hours there and finally a rush to the OR found that I had had an ectopic pregnacy, and my fillopian tube had burst, causing me to bleed out into my abdoman. They estimated that I had over 3\/5ths of the blood of my entire body in my belly by the time they got me to the OR. It was said flat out that 30 more minutes wait, and I would be dead.<\/p>\n

5 days in the hospital, 2 transfusions, a lot of iron pills and medications, and I was finally on the way to recovery. On top of the physical pain, I was still dealing with the trauma of loosing the baby too.<\/p>\n

It was around this time that I met TBF and our friendship began to grow – the one good thing out of the whole experience. I was so emotionally raw and ripped, that he recognized that, and helped hold me together until I could hold myself together again.<\/p>\n

What does all this mean in light of this idiots proposed law? I was in NO EMOTIONAL STATE to report anything, let alone within 12 hours, to the local copshop. And how would these reports go? Would a phone call suffice? How would I be able to answer their questions? They want to know the weight of the fetus! I had yet to pass the remains of my dead baby – and if I HAD, they would have wanted me to go into the toilet, collect it, and weigh it on what, my kitchen scale??? If they determined this needed further investigation, would I have had them at my door, lights flashing, and had to add to my own personal hell that of an investigation and my neighbors nosey looks on top of it all…? All of this while still trying to wrap my mind around the fact that I – who had two healthy children already – was losing a baby and no one could tell me WHY?<\/p>\n

It’s outrageous. I’m sickened, I’m heartbroken, I’m APPALLED at the insistance of that idiot legislator would try to push this through. What reason is there for it? What possible good could come of this?? For those of you in Virginia – FIGHT THIS. For those of you in other states, beware that it may come to this for US too… <\/p>\n

I just… I don’t have anything else to say. I’m physically ILL with the implications of what this would have added to my already fragile state of mind if this had been required in my state in 97. The resulting years of depression I suffered may have very well done me in completely, instead of my finally pulling out of them. I know I never would have risked getting pregnant again, and would have missed out on the joy that the Pup brings to us on a daily basis, that’s for sure. It’s just bloody WRONG people. so fucking WRONG.<\/p>\n

I’m disgusted. I hate the government having what sway it does in my personal life – and this? Is too fucking much.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

So – browsing various favorites and playing “follow the link” brought up a doosey today. Apparently, some fucknut legislaturive asshole by the name of Delegate John Cosgrove (R-78) of the Commonwealth of Virgina has proposed and filed and sponsored a bill to update\/change\/make a law that included a fine if a woman sufferes an unattended […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-135","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-myriad"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/gonfalon.org\/eclat\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/135","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/gonfalon.org\/eclat\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/gonfalon.org\/eclat\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gonfalon.org\/eclat\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gonfalon.org\/eclat\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=135"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/gonfalon.org\/eclat\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/135\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/gonfalon.org\/eclat\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=135"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gonfalon.org\/eclat\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=135"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gonfalon.org\/eclat\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=135"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}