Avrum Nadigel said:<\/p>\n
Parent\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s have asked me how to ensure their kids aren\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t creating alternative identities at their friend\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s place\u00e2\u20ac\u00a6 internet cafes, etc.<\/p>\n
Any advice?<\/p>\n
The other issue is that, regardless of prep, parents can\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t control how other teens use their child\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s info. It\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s truly the Wild West out there.\n<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
My advice is what it always is – TALK to the kids. It’s hard to start now if they haven’t built a foundation already, but it’s better to start now then not at all, you know? Also, know your kids’ friends. Know their parents. And check THEIR profiles on occasion too. I’m lucky in that my kids’ friends all seem to like me alright, they call me mom, and my house -closest to their school- is the local gathering spot for their group. I make an effort to Scare<\/strike> get to know each of the newcomers that show up, make them feel welcome, and let them know that it wasn’t so long ago that I was a teenager (They swear I’ve the mind of a 16 year old boy, anyway!) and I know, remember, and understand.<\/p>\n
Kids are going to rebel. BEFORE that happens, we need to have already gotten into their heads that they CAN come to us and talk. If you haven’t already, it’s going to be a rocky process, but that’s better then discovering your kids doing naked body shots at a bar downtown with a fake id in their back pocket – discovered because pictures are on their myspace profile.<\/p>\n
It’s also important to TRUST your kids. You’ve spent all this time raising them, do you doubt you’ve done a good job? Have the kids given you reason to fret, or are you just driving yourself mad with ‘what if…’ scenarios just for kicks? We have to let them stretch their wings sometime. We have to trust that they’ve listened when it’s important.<\/p>\n
If they abuse that trust, that’s another scenario all together… the minute they do, all bets are off.<\/p>\n
As for what other kids do – we can’t control that. We really can’t. So working ourselves into a tizzy about it only drives us more insane and causes us more ulcers. Know your kids friends. Hell, know their enemies. Listen when they talk – to you, to their buddies in front of you. If we stop yelling and panicking long enough to HEAR what they’re saying, we’ll all be in a better position to protect them when they need it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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